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Submit by March 4, 2019✨

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All of you screaming “Couple goals!!!” or “Such boyfriends!!!” at every. single. interaction. ever is so freaking annyoing. It’s not even about toxic shipping or making idols uncofmortable by pressing it in their face so much (though it’s also about that), but it’s about the simple fact that there’s something called friendship, you apes. And by having the fcking NEED to turn everything into something potentially romantic (though for some it’s not even potentially) you devalue their friendships so much that it’s actually insulting!

tl;dr Grow up.

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@iofficalstalki wrote:

honestly I wish I would people let each other life if they like shipping let them be as long as they don’t attack idols and so one, but also about the healthy friendship thingy what is the big diffrence between relationship and friendship. Maybe I’m the only one but I’m at a point of sexual confusion that I honestly can’t answer this. if u can u would really help me understand ur problem.

It’s really not about the shipping itself, I don’t care who you ship, hell I even read fanfics myself and have ships I prefer over others. The problems are:

1. People going into the comments of idols on twitter or instagram and writing stuff that insuates they’re a couple/in love/whatever. Can you imagine someone coming up to you and your friend saying “You’re such a cute couple!!!!!” and you answer “But we’re not? We’re just good friends?” but then they say “No, you MUST be, you LOOKED at each other” ? Really uncomfortable, if you ask me. Also doing that with people they LIVE together and spend all their time together? Making them question everything they do? Making them think “can I even hug them or touch them or do people think stuff like that again?” Really, really uncomfortable.

But 2., my main point:

Idols are friends with their group members. Really, really good friends in my experience, since they lived through their most important moments together. And people really say “they can’t be friends, they care too much for each other/love each other too much”. Like… can you even love your friends too much? Is that a thing? Don’t you love your friends?

Friendship is something wonderful, something incredibly powerful. A friend is someone you choose to care for, someone who cares for you. A friend is someone who will stand with you no matter what happens. Friendship is so, so, so important.

And still people make it seem like something less. Like if you like someone so much it has to be romantical. And that’s just… not true. You can love someone without it being romantic at all. And that is just as valuable (if not even more in my opinion) as romantic love.

So saying two people have to be romantically in love, just because they care for each other, is insulting their deep friendship and devaluing friendships in general.

iofficalstalki

@airakt-talks-kpop now I understand what ur talking about and I totally agree thats problematic. I just thought u were annoyed by people shipping idols that are just friends, but this is obviously a problem especially with people commenting this on their instas, twitter and so one. But I think after all we know from idols they could date everyone and for people saying their gotta be in love is an interpretation that I can accept like. The way u described friendship could also be a way u describe a relationship (at least a good healthy one) . and we barley know for real that some idols are dating. so all I wanna say we can’t tell if their friends or dating and I don’t even want them to be honest I saw what it did to Hyuna and E'dawn. so no thanks keep ur privacy. Of course friendship is an important thing but we can lose friends the same way we can lose a lovers so for me. There is no disrespect for calling them lovers instead of friends. because both has the same value. I hope ur get what I’m trying to say. Of course we can discuss that its dumb for people to assume idols are dating and they state it as a fact. Ignoring that they could be just friends, but most of the time we won’t bring them to listen. So I’d say leave them be